My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me. Jim Valvano, American basketball player
One of the most important factors that enables a daughter to move forward after the loss of her mother is who remains present for her. When I was a bewildered, motherless, eight-year-old, my dad became my only parent and caregiver. We barely knew one another as he had frequently been absent from my life–first due to active duty in World War II, later when he was recalled to serve in the Korean War.
Fortunately, my dad stepped up to the task of rearing a daughter by himself. Although this arrangement was practically unheard of in the mid-50’s, he provided a calm, secure, nurturing presence until his death at age ninety-two. I was blessed beyond measure!
Affirmation: I am grateful!
Coaching questions: At the time of loss in your life, who stepped up to help nurture you? What difference did this make in your life?
The last photo of my parents together, ages 34 and 36, shortly before my mother’s death.
Life after losing a mother 