What we have once enjoyed we can never lose; all that we deeply love becomes a part of us. Helen Keller
Loss of a loved one is always difficult. It’s the price we pay for having a great love. However, we can be joyful again as we learn to accommodate to life after loss.
C.S. Lewis in A Grief Observed likened accepting your life after loss to a man learning to walk after a leg has been amputated. Lewis writes, “The amputee may get along quite well, may even become facile and agile on crutches or on a carefully designed artificial limb. But the amputee must accommodate to permanent loss. He or she will never walk as before; repair does not mean a return to the way things were.”
Our life will never be as it was before our loss. But, those we love are always a part of us as we learn to “walk” again.
Affirmation: I can learn to be joyful again after loss.
Coaching questions: How are you different after loss? In what ways have you accommodated to your loss? What do you have left to do?