Secrecy is a vacuum and nothing fills a vacuum like paranoid speculation. Max Brooks, author
One of the tragedies of mother loss is when family members are discouraged from speaking about the details of the person’s death or sharing memories about the loved one. After talking with motherless daughters who grew up in environments ruled by secrecy, I learned that the secrecy itself was as much of a problem as the actual death of their mother.
Healthy families have open discussions about the death of a loved one and frequently share their memories.
Affirmation: I am open and honest about the death of a loved one.
Coaching questions: How have family secrets kept you from becoming your best self? What will you do about it? What difference will it make? Be specific.