The human capacity for burden is like bamboo- far more flexible than you’d ever believe at first glance. Jodi Picoult, author
I recently communicated with a mother of two small children who knows she’s going to die in the next several months. She asked how, at eight years old, I handled my mother’s death and what advice I had for her to prepare her children for the years after her death. She’s done much already including putting aside birthday gifts for each child for the next ten years.
I told her that she sounds like a caring mother who has already laid a solid foundation for her children. I encouraged her to trust the significance of her early mothering and to have faith in her children’s resiliency.
Isn’t this true for us all? When tragedy strikes, we must rely on the foundation of our past experiences then trust our own strength and resilience as we proceed into the future.
Affirmation: I am strong and resilient.
Coaching questions: What would you tell this mother? What can you tell your future self about handling death and disappointment?
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Life after losing a mother 
Thank you Mershon. I needed this right now. My daughter had to have her f 1/2 month pregnancy terminated today because of complications with the baby. We are all devastated. It is sometimes hard to remember how resilient we are.
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On Thu, Jan 14, 2021 at 2:13 PM Life after losing a mother wrote:
> Mershon Niesner posted: ” The human capacity for burden is like bamboo- > far more flexible than you’d ever believe at first glance. Jodi Picoult, > author I recently communicated with a mother of two small children who > knows she’s going to die in the next several months. She aske” >
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I’m so very sorry to hear this. Even though it doesn’t feel like it now, you and your loved ones are resilient. For now, be in the sadness.
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I would tell the mother to make sure she has pictures taken with each of the children alone and then as a group too. I know you often post the picture of you and your mother together so I know it has great significance for you. Her children will treasure the pictures in the future.
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I would recommend to write a note to each child on significant birthdays or occasions (18, 21, graduation, marriage etc) and lots of casual pictures doing every day things. I’ll say a prayer for her and her family!
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Great suggestions. I think she has done many of these things.
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