Learning To Say No

What you don’t do determines what you can do.  Tim Ferriss, author

Why do so many people find it difficult to say no? Here’s a list of possible reasons. See what resonates with you.

—To avoid confrontation. Few people want confrontation in their lives. Saying yes  is a way of appeasing a person who might be confrontational if they hear a no.

—To reduce the Fear of Missing Out. FOMO is a real thing. When we say no to something that we perceive others will say yes to, we activate anxiety caused by FOMO.

—Because we’re accustomed and programmed to saying yes. Without thinking about the consequences, many people immediately say yes when asked to do something then regret it later. A better answer might be, “Let me get back to you.”

—Wanting to please others. Like avoiding confrontation, needing to please others, even at their own expense, causes people to say yes to things they’d rather say no to. 

Affirmation: I will learn to say no when appropriate and pause before saying yes.

Coaching questions: If you have difficulty saying no, consider why. Try delaying your answer when asked to do something. 

Photo by Debby Urken on Unsplash

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