Honoring the Past

I am bound to them, though I cannot look into their eyes or hear their voices. I honor their history. I cherish their lives. I will tell their story. I will remember them. Author unknown

In 1990, our home was robbed. The burglars took nearly all of my regular and heirloom jewelry (five pillow cases full) and all of our electronics. Because of this event, I have only a few precious things that belonged to my mother and grandmother who both died in their 30’s. With granddaughters of my own growing up, it’s time to begin to pass on these few heirlooms.

Even though they never knew these women, I want my children and grandchildren to remember them, know their stories, and honor their history. This Christmas I’m passing on a little ring stored in the finger of a leather glove that belonged to my mother and, perhaps, her mother. It is for my oldest granddaughter, Kavita. Her mother, my daughter, is named for these two women. May the ring be a symbol to help her remember the past.

Affirmation: I remember.

Coaching questions: What helps you remember the past? What will you do to pass the memories on? 

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So Happy To Have “Fraughters”

A daughter is just a little girl who grows up to be your best friend. Anonymous

I am blessed with two daughters and a son who I have had the privilege to see grow up. (I’m also delighted to have two step-daughters and a step-son but they came into my life fully grown.) As the first generation in three to have the opportunity to see my children into adulthood, I particularly treasure the time I have with my adult children. My mother and her mother didn’t live through their thirties so I’m relieved that my daughters are both in their forties. What a joy it is to have adult daughters who become “fraughters” — friends/daughters.

One of the take-aways of a daughter, like myself, who has experienced early mother loss, is the appreciation of being able to spend time with grown daughters.

Affirmation: I find joy in my grown children.

Coaching questions: If you have young children, what helps you overcome any anxiety about leaving them too soon? If your children are grown, how can you show gratitude that you made it this far in their lives?

IMG_0004My middle child, Katie, and I at my step-granddaughter’s wedding last night.