The Importance of Sharing Stories

Sharing tales of those we’ve lost is how we keep from really losing them. Mitch Albom, American author

It is important for us all, no matter the loss we have experienced, to share the stories of the deceased. Telling the tales, reminiscing about the past, remember the details of a lost loved one is critically important to the welfare of the grieving. When photos are put away and silence about the past is the rule, ultimately everyone suffers. Recalling a loved one may initially bring tears of grief but ultimately those memories will bring tears of joy and help in recovery. 

I would know next to nothing about my mother if my father hadn’t shared with me who she was and how important she was in our life. Her picture was prominently hung above his bed, a photo album of our brief eight years together was readily accessible to me. I’m thankful for my dad’s openness and willingness to help me know my mother and keep her present in my life. 

Affirmation: I remember.

Coaching questions: What tales do you tell to keep your past loved ones present? If your family doesn’t speak about a loved one who has died, to whom might you turn to give you information and share your memories? 


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Have You Told Your Story?

Emotional, autobiographical storytelling can be a path to truly owning your story. Sherry Hamby, Ph.D. The Web of Violence

Today I’m having lunch with, Sarah, a woman I interviewed for my book. She’s a friend of a friend and I have not yet met her face to face. One of the great joys of writing my book has been speaking with amazing, brave women like Sarah. These women were willing to share their difficult stories as a means of helping others.

Not only does sharing your story make a difference to others, it helps you find your voice and make sense of the events of your life. Sharing also helps you express your values, reinforce hope, and take steps to move forward in your adventure of living.

Affirmation: I will tell my story.

Coaching questions: Do you have an untold story you’d like or need to tell? Consider sharing it with an understanding person in your life. How might this telling help you move forward with your life? 


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