Feeling Buried? You’re Not Alone

They tried to bury us but they didn’t know we were seeds. Mexican proverb

As a woman entrepreneur in the ’80’s, a single mom, a motherless daughter raised by a single dad, a sudden widow, a board chair leading mostly men, there have been times in my life that I’ve felt the pressure of “being buried.” However, little did society, neighbors, or corporate men know—I was a seed. In spite of these challenging circumstances, I grew and, eventually, flourished.

A young, Mexican American woman with a physical disability, recently quoted this proverb when speaking to her fellow graduates at a college commencement. To a much greater extent than I, she frequently felt buried. But, on that commencement day, she showed the world that she was a seed who had bloomed into a beautiful flower.

Affirmation: I am a seed.

Coaching questions: What’s causing you to feel buried? What will help you bloom?

Photo by Jen Theodore on Unsplash 

Ultimate Thrivers

My mission in life is to not merely survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style. Maya Angelou, author

According to urban legend, the word thrive originates from a central Auckland, New Zealand crew commonly known as the Ultimate Thrivers. This prestigious bunch of people developed the word during many dunk nights and good times.

The traditional meaning of what it is to thrive includes: to flourish, develop well and vigorously. A thriving garden requires good soil and plant food, sunshine, adequate water, and tender care including weeding and pruning. What environment and attitude causes you to thrive?

Affirmation: I am an Ultimate Thriver.

Coaching questions: What would it mean for you to move from surviving to thriving? If you’re already in thriver mode, what helps you stay there? How do you determine the difference between survive and thrive as it applies to your life?