Count Your Blessings

“It happened in New York, April 10th, nineteen years ago. Even my hand balks at the date. I had to push to write it down, just to keep the pen moving on the paper. It used to be a perfectly ordinary day, but now it sticks up on the calendar like a rusty nail.” Donna Tartt, The Goldfinch

Losing a mother at any age or stage of life is difficult. I talked to a friend who recently lost her 98 year old mother. She said, “She had lived a full life, we knew we were losing her but after she died, it was still a shock, still difficult.” As sad as it is, having a mother much of your life is surely a gift…as my friend acknowledged.

Allie, a young woman I interviewed for my book, is losing her mother to early onset Alzheimer’s. Her mother was 47 when she was diagnosed, Allie was 11, her sister was 9. Eight years later, Allie’s mother is in memory care and has lost many functions. I’m happy to say that Allie, after spending her high school years as a part time care giver, is now a thriving, well adjusted college student. But… to gradually lose a mother throughout your adolescence and early adulthood is a cruel blow. It makes me want to “count my blessings.”

Affirmation: I am emotionally strong.

Coaching questions: What blessings haven’t you counted lately? Take a moment right now and name five.


2 thoughts on “Count Your Blessings

  1. Five? How about 50,000?
    1. All the diseases and conditions I don’t have.
    2. My almost 16 year old (96 in dog) dog and all her dog friends who visit through the fence.
    3. Enough income to “get by” with a little cushion when I need it.
    4. Children who “don’t need me” any more which translates to kids who are grown up and independent and fabulous fathers and husbands.
    5. The unbelievable gift of four GrandGirls — the reward of raising three sons.
    And 49,995 more. But I DO count them — all the time. There are the big ones like I still have my mind and the little ones like the times I tripped but didn’t fall.
    And 49,993 more.

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