Be a Lighthouse To Others

The scars you share become lighthouses for other people who are headed to the same rocks you hit. Unknown

In the process of writing my book on mother loss, fifty-five women came forward to tell their stories of early death, abandonment, murder, and loss to dementia. Each daughter thanked me for the opportunity to share their experiences and what they learned so that others, with a similar life story, could benefit. They are lighthouses.

In return, each daughter expressed the joy she felt in being heard and understood. Each recognized the value of speaking her truth, no matter how painful. Many said, “This is the first time I’ve told anyone this” or “I don’t often speak of…” or “It feels so good to speak of my mother.” 

Whatever your scar may be, use your experience to become a lighthouse to others. The light shines both ways.

Affirmation: I am a lighthouse.

Coaching questions: How can you use your scars to become a lighthouse for others. Think of one thing you can do (sponsor a walk for a disease, donate to a cause, speak with someone experiencing what you’ve experienced) then proceed.