The oak fought the wind and was broken, the willow bent when it must and survived. Robert Jordan, American author
Trauma and extreme stress require us to tap into our resiliency—the capacity to adapt in the face of adversity. The loss of your mother (or other loved one), health challenges, job loss, divorce, a pandemic, or an unexpected move—all require resilience if we are going to move forward in a healthy way.
In my experience, I’ve found that those who demonstrate resilience generally have these six traits in common:
1. The ability to sustain supportive relationships with family and friends.
2. A strong self-image and confidence in their strengths.
3. The ability to accept change as a part of living rather than seeing it as insurmountable.
4. Good communication and problem solving skills.
5. Practice good self care.
6. Build on their past experiences and trust that what they survived made them stronger.
Affirmation: I am resilient.
Coaching questions: If you’re learning to flex your resiliency muscle, which of the six traits do you need to work on? What will you do today to build resiliency for the future?