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Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain. Vivian Green, American singer and song writer

It’s been eight months. Have you learned to “dance in the rain” yet? There’s no doubt that we’ve been living in a storm. Some of you have literally been living in a storm of fire, rain, hurricanes, and tornados on top of the storm of a pandemic.

Dancing in the rain takes practice. If you’ve experienced storms in the past—death, divorce, financial crisis, health issues—you know what I mean. You’ve learned resiliency, patience, acceptance—or not. 

To me, dancing in the rain doesn’t mean I’m enjoying the storm. As I dance, I’m wishing for sunny days but dance I will because crying in the rain hasn’t worked for me, wishing away rainy days hasn’t worked for me, dancing in the rain works for me.

Affirmation: I will dance in the rain. 

Coaching questions: What does “dancing in the rain” look like to you? How do you handle the storms of life? What works, what doesn’t? What will you choose today?

Relationships provide meaning and a sense of purpose to your life. Julianne Holt-Lunstad, Ph.D.

In a Cigna study earlier this year, 61 percent of U.S. adults reported feeling lonely, this was before COVID struck.

Here are a few tips on combating loneliness at a time when more of us are alone—or nearly alone—than ever before in our lives. 

—Call or Face Time someone you care about daily. Even texting helps us feel connected and less alone.

—Just twenty minutes of exercise helps get our mood-enhancing brain chemicals pumping. 

—Service is a great antidote to loneliness. Send a card, write a check, volunteer at a food pantry (if you’re low risk), make calls to get out the vote. 

Hopefully, being separate from friends and family is making us realize how much we need one another. I don’t know about you, but I will come out of this with an even stronger commitment to the ones I love. 

Affirmation: I will combat loneliness.

Coaching questions: What is helping you feel less alone? What helped you in the past? What step(s) will you take today to combat loneliness?

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There is no doubt that COVID-19 is a cloud that continues to hover over our world. For some the virus brought catastrophe—a lost loved one, lost business, lost job. For others, the impact has been less severe but, nevertheless, COVID has impacted all of us in some negative way.

But, as with all clouds, there are silver linings—needed rain, cooler temperatures, rainbows.  

My COVID silver linings have been time to write a new book and publish the book I’d spent three years writing. I’ve also become friends via email with my next door neighbor (a lovely lady from England) and a weekly opportunity to learn in a Zoom class taught by my editor, Elena, who lives in Washington state.

My granddaughter’s silver lining was the opportunity to teach herself to play the guitar. Some have planted gardens, read more books, reconnected with old friends, learned to cook new recipes. 

Affirmation: I believe in silver linings.

Coaching questions: What silver linings have you had in the last eight months? What have they meant to you?

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An empty lantern provides no light. Self-care is the fuel that allows your light to shine brightly. Unknown

Last year, I sent a children’s book entitled, Fill a Bucket by Carol McCloud and Katherine Martin, to some of my Greats and Grands. The book’s message is that we all have an invisible bucket which holds good thoughts and feelings about ourselves. When someone does something nice for you, you do something nice for them, or you do something nice for yourself, you fill your bucket and visa versa. 

I’ve used the bucket analogy as a Life Coach for years. I’d notice my client’s bucket was empty by how she sounded or what she said. I’d ask her, “What will you do this week to fill your bucket?” 

As the holiday season approaches, it’s easy to deplete our own buckets while working hard to fill the buckets of others. This month, keep tabs on your bucket, notice when it’s getting low and either fill it yourself (a nap, a call to a friend, a bath, a walk) or ask someone to fill it (please clean up the kitchen, take me to dinner, drop this off at the post office). As we fill the buckets of others, our joy increases but we need to watch the balance. 

Affirmation: I have a full bucket.

Coaching questions: How’s your bucket doing? Is it full or empty? What can you do this week to fill up your bucket while adding to another’s?

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When our mind is full of the warmth of humor, we are in touch with the best of ourselves. Quote from Welcoming the Unwelcome by Pema Chodron

I definitely agree with Chodron’s quote but, since I don’t think of myself as funny, humor is a difficult topic for me to write about. In today’s world, however, I’m grateful for anything that makes me laugh. I’m craving a big, out-loud laugh. I know how good it feels.

I just went through my Facebook feed to find something funny for inspiration. Alas, nada. That’s not always true but laugh-out-loud humor, that isn’t at the expense of someone, is rare these days. Yet, it’s so vital to getting in touch with “the best of ourselves.”

Affirmation: I like to laugh.

Coaching questions and request: Where do you find humor? What makes you laugh out loud? How do you feel when you do? Please share something funny. I need a good laugh.

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To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under the heaven…a time to be born and a time to die; a time to plant and a time to pluck up that which is planted. Ecclesiastes 3:2, The Bible

I grew up in Nebraska and I’m a Nebraska girl at heart. Although my ancestors were country doctors, boot makers, lumberyard owners, my Nebraska roots gave me a deep love and respect for the land and farmers.

Prior to moving to Florida, we lived in the midst of Illinois farmland where I felt a part of the planting, sprouting, growing, harvesting seasons and appreciated the farmers I saw working the fields into the night at harvest time.  

Tomorrow is National Farmer’s Day and an opportunity to pay tribute to farmers throughout history. I have the utmost respect for our farmers in today’s highly technical, yet labor intensive and unforgiving industry.

Affirmation: I thank farmers who put food on my table.

Coaching request: Take a moment to consider the food in your pantry and refrigerator. Think about what it takes to plant, grow, and harvest the wheat to make your bread. Consider the birthing of calves, gathering of eggs, or feeding of chickens. Consider the back breaking job of picking your lettuce or broccoli. Then, show gratitude. 

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