If you had a person in your life treating you the way you treat yourself, you would have gotten rid of them a long time ago. Cheri Huber, author of There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate
As I edit/rewrite my first book, Ribbons of Love – Affirmations for abundant living, I’m reminded of the power of self-talk. Do you speak to yourself the way you’d speak to your beloved child or grandchild? If the negative voice in your mind is loud and keeping you from being the person you want to be, it’s time to take action. Here are three steps to help you begin:
1. Name the negative voice in your head. I call mine the Gremlin. Talk back to your negative voice, argue with him/her, challenge your Gremlin with the truth.
2. Track when your Gremlin is speaking to you. One of the first steps to changing a habit is recognizing when it occurs. Journaling is a helpful way to do this or simply stop and make a mental note of unwarranted negativity.
3. Affirm yourself. If your Gremlin is invading your space, repeat an affirmation. Gremlins hate affirmations because they take away their power. It’s unlikely that you’ll completely rid yourself of your Gremlin but you can tame him.
4. Talk to yourself like a trusted friend and refuse to believe your unrealistic, negative inner voice.
Affirmation: I am worthy of positive self talk.
Coaching questions: What is your Gremlin saying to you? Is it true? What steps will you take to tame your Gremlin? What difference will it make?