Creating Happy Days

Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be. Abraham Lincoln

Today is my husband’s birthday. I wish him good health and happiness for the coming year. What does that mean exactly? We get the health part but what about happiness? Some think happiness is something we can use up. Others think happiness is the result of more…more money, more fame, more stuff.  Nothing can be further from the truth. 

Contentment or happiness is the result of many things including our environment, habits, behaviors, and decisions. It is also the result of learning to create a good day for ourselves. As we consistently choose to be happy, the amount of happiness we experience can improve over time and we will be better able to address problems as they arise. Happy Birthday, Ken!

Affirmation: I know how to create a good day for myself.

Coaching questions: What makes you happy? How do you create your own happiness? What will you do to bring more happiness into your life? 


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Use Your Power in 2019

Don’t underestimate your power. Hate is potent, but so is kindness. And goodness, and grace. Use yours generously. Oprah

2018 has been a tumultuous year in the United States and elsewhere in the world. Mass shootings, political unrest, war, lies, hatred, climatic disasters, children separated from parents, discrimination, sexual abuse and assault. It’s easy to feel powerless in the wake of psychological and physical chaos.

But, as Oprah says, “what I know for sure,” is how you treat every person in your sphere can and will make a difference. Don’t underestimate the power of goodness, kindness, and empathy. Don’t underestimate the power of your modeling—to children and others. Do what you can to make 2019 a gentler, kinder year. 

Affirmation: I have power.

Coaching question: What one behavior will you change in 2019 to make a difference in our troubled world?