A Day When We Get It Right

Halloween, a day when we get it right. Strangers come to us—beautiful, ugly, scary—and we accept them without question, compliment them, treat them kindly and give them good things. Why don’t we live like that? Steve Garnass-Holmes, retired pastor

I love this metaphor for living with love and acceptance. With hatred growing at an unprecedented rate in the United States, we need a simple reminder to be kind to our neighbors, to those who don’t look like us, and to people who are in need of “good things.”

Whether or not you have trick or treaters today, I hope you’ll take this Halloween message to heart.

Affirmation: I am kind.

Coaching question: How will you translate this message into November first and beyond?

Photo by Łukasz Nieścioruk on Unsplash

A Random Act of Kindness

Small acts of kindness toward acquaintances and strangers offer great health benefits and make us feel more secure. Frank Lipman, MD, pioneer of functional medicine

Yesterday, I witnessed a random act of kindness in a parking lot. Just before I arrived to meet up with my Smoking Pots (a cooking group) friends, one of them tripped and fell. She’s on blood thinners so she was bleeding more than usual from her knee and had a bruise developing on her wrist. A stranger immediately came to her aid, helped her up while another stranger ran to the grocery store for frozen peas to stop the bruising. 

I was concerned and feeling bad for my friend (she’s ok and came to lunch with us) but my heart sang to have the confirmation that there are good people in the world who are ready to help a stranger. Dr. Lipman says that an act of kindness can shift us out of our single point of view and away from our personal problems into a shared experience. For a moment, we remember that we’re all in this together. 

Affirmation: I’m ready to offer kindness.

Coaching questions: How would you feel if you helped to a stranger? How does being helped make you feel? Look for ways to offer random acts of kindness. 


Use Your Power in 2019

Don’t underestimate your power. Hate is potent, but so is kindness. And goodness, and grace. Use yours generously. Oprah

2018 has been a tumultuous year in the United States and elsewhere in the world. Mass shootings, political unrest, war, lies, hatred, climatic disasters, children separated from parents, discrimination, sexual abuse and assault. It’s easy to feel powerless in the wake of psychological and physical chaos.

But, as Oprah says, “what I know for sure,” is how you treat every person in your sphere can and will make a difference. Don’t underestimate the power of goodness, kindness, and empathy. Don’t underestimate the power of your modeling—to children and others. Do what you can to make 2019 a gentler, kinder year. 

Affirmation: I have power.

Coaching question: What one behavior will you change in 2019 to make a difference in our troubled world? 


Remember and Honor

If we learn nothing else from this tragedy, we learn that life is short and there is no time for hate. Sandy Dahl, wife of Flight 92 pilot, Jason Dahl

Yesterday, in the United States and elsewhere, we remembered the 2,977 people who were killed during the 9/11 coordinated terrorist attacks. The day is now also dedicated to community service which, I propose, we embrace everyday. 

I agree with President Obama who said, “Even the smallest act of service, the simplest act of kindness, is a way to honor those we lost, a way to reclaim that spirit of unity that follows 9/11.”

Affirmation: I remember and honor through service.

Coaching questions: What is one small act of service or kindness you will provide to help reclaim the spirit of unity? How does your service/kindness enrich your life?