It doesn’t matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. Confucius
As I talk with people who are grieving or feel emotionally stuck, I often ask them to do one small thing they aren’t doing now. Dr. Fogg, founder of the Persuasive Technology Lab at Stanford, calls these “tiny steps.” Increasing a person’s chance for success, however small, increases their motivation to do other things. Make your bed, floss your teeth, walk a block, read a chapter—take a tiny step in a new direction.
There’s scientific evidence that levels of dopamine tend to be higher in people who get things done. Accomplishing things feels good, increasing levels of dopamine which helps motivate us to want to do more. Ask yourself, “Why does it matter that I ____?” When we connect what we want to do to our values, the chance of moving forward increases. For instance, “I want to be present for my granddaughter” or “I want to honor my mother by a life well-lived.”
Affirmation: I can motivate myself to move forward.
Coaching questions: What’s keeping you from moving forward? What’s a tiny step you can take? When will you take it? Why does it matter that you regain your motivation?
Photo by Matthew Henry on Unsplash
Wherever you go, go with all your heart. Confucius
I won’t be bogging for the next three weeks. My husband and I are taking a cruise from London to Iceland. Although I’ll have WiFi on the ship (join me on Facebook to see photos), I’m taking a break from “work” and leaving my laptop at home.
I’m going to give my full attention to the sea breezes, sunsets, fabulous food, new acquaintances, unique experiences, and beautiful places like Saint Malo, Dublin, Belfast, St Mary Isles of Scilly, and Reykjavik. I’m going with all my heart and giving the experience my full attention.
I hope you miss me—even if it’s just a little.
P.S. This photo is from a past Alaskan cruise. I took a helicopter to a glacier, the dogs’ summer training ground, in order to dog sled. Two of the dogs on my team had run in the Iditarod. One of my favorite life experiences.
Show respect to all people, but grovel to none. Tecumseh, Native American Shawnee warrior and chief.
Tecumseh was among the most celebrated Indian leaders in history and was known as a strong and eloquent orator who promoted tribal unity. Tecumseh knew a thing or two about respect and, unfortunately, he learned about disrespect at the hands of the U.S. government.
Respect is the cornerstone of relationships, friend to friend, colleague to colleague, or country to country. As we respect the life experiences of others, including their differences, we are enriched in our own journey. At all cost, we must hold on to our mutual respect otherwise, as Confucius said, “We are no better than the beasts.”
Affirmation: I respect myself and others.
Coaching questions: In an age when disrespect has become the norm, what can you do to hold on to the power of respect in your life? Where is the line between respect and groveling?