Showing Respect

Show respect to all people, but grovel to none. Tecumseh, Native American Shawnee warrior and chief.

Tecumseh was among the most celebrated Indian leaders in history and was known as a strong and eloquent orator who promoted tribal unity. Tecumseh knew a thing or two about respect and, unfortunately, he learned about disrespect at the hands of the U.S. government.

Respect is the cornerstone of relationships, friend to friend, colleague to colleague, or country to country. As we respect the life experiences of others, including their differences, we are enriched in our own journey. At all cost, we must hold on to our mutual respect otherwise, as Confucius said, “We are no better than the beasts.”

Affirmation: I respect myself and others.

Coaching questions: In an age when disrespect has become the norm, what can you do to hold on to the power of respect in your life? Where is the line between respect and groveling?

Land of the Free – In memory of John McCain

We are living in the land of the free, the land where anything is possible, the land of the immigrant’s dream, the land with the storied past forgotten in the rush to the imagine future, the land that repairs and reinvents itself. Quote from The Restless Wave by John McCain, U.S. Senator and war hero (1936-2018)

Although John McCain was a self-proclaimed imperfect person, few can question his love and loyalty to the United States of America. The above quote is a good reminder of what patriotism looks like.

When my late husband, a decorated Viet Nam Veteran, visited Senator McCain…a man he revered… in Washington, McCain was welcoming, embracing veterans as comrades. Keith fondly remembered this encounter and never lost his respect for the man. How we treat others is how we are remembered….above our our fame or even our bravery.

Affirmation: I treat others with respect.

Coaching questions: Who do you know or have known that you consider a hero? Why do they deserve your accolades? How do you want to be remembered?


What I Learned At T-Ball

There are three types of baseball players: Those who make it happen, those who watch it happen and those who wonder what happens. Tommy Lasorda, Major League Baseball pitcher and manager

T-Ball for boys and girls 4 and 5 years old proves this quote over and over. A few are in there making it happen (mostly the coach’s son), as the ball comes their way, some watch it happen wondering to whom it will roll, and some have no idea what’s going on, wondering which left field they are supposed to play. The good news…they all seem to be having fun…well, except the very shy boy I observed while at bat.

Here’s what I learned:

  • “Measure” (this is what my granddaughter calls practice swings) with the bat before you try to hit the ball – Practice a bit before you try something new
  • If your helmet is too big, hold onto it by the ear holes while running bases – Make do with what you have
  • Try not to hit your coach with the bat – Respect your leaders if they are worthy
  • Graciously thank your team mates’ parents for the snacks – Have an attitude of gratitude
  • Be glad when your older sibs, “Uncle” Pete, and grandparents watch your game – Never take your family for granted…they will always be there for you

Affirmation: I know how to play ball.

Coaching questions: What have you learned lately from the children in your life? How will you apply this learning?