Don’t Be Blind-Sighted By Bubble-Ups

So long as the memory of certain beloved friends lives in my heart, I shall say that life is good. Helen Keller

A woman I spoke with who had lost her mother years ago called her sudden memories of her mother “bubble-ups.” One bubble-up for her was, “My mother had many friends, sometimes I wonder where they were after she died.” One of my bubble-ups is when the University of Nebraska football team takes the field. In that moment, I can’t help but shed a tear because I feel the presence of my beloved dad.

We are frequently blind-sighted by our bubble-ups. A memory suddenly assails us and brings tears, anger, or guilt. Be patient with yourself as the memory comes and goes. “Tis the season for bubble-ups.

Affirmation: I accept my memories as they come. 

Coaching questions: What “bubble-ups” have you experienced? How have you handled them? If necessary, reframe them from annoying to precious.

Honoring My Dad

My father used to say that it’s never too late to do anything you wanted to do. And he said, “You never know what you can accomplish until you try”. Michael Jordan, NBA basketball super star

We are spending Father’s Day in Portland, Oregon following the college graduation of  our grandson, Austin. I’m happy for my husband that he will spend the day with two of his three children and two of his 11 grands. It will be a great day of wine tasting and celebration!

For those of you who know me personally, you know how much my dad meant to me. He raised me from the age of eight and I was blessed with a particularly awesome dad. He was patient and kind, calm and consistent, understanding and forgiving, supportive and firm. He sounds like a saint…he wasn’t…but he was a darn good guy! He died nine years ago at the age of 92. I’ve attempted to take on his role of #1 Nebraska Football Fan and I hope my life honors his.

Affirmation: I honor my dad’s life with my own.

Coaching questions: What did/does your dad mean to you? How has he made a difference in your life? Not all dads are a positive influence. If yours isn’t/wasn’t, how have you dwelt with your circumstances?


 My Dad, Leon Horn, in his late 80’s.