Remember there’s no such thing as a small act of kindness. Every act creates a ripple with no logical end. Scott Adams, creator of Dilbert
It’s important to let the people in your life know that you are listening to what they say and hearing what they mean.
Here are ten things people generally love to hear, or questions they like to be asked – IF they are genuine and from the heart.
—I was thinking about you
—What do you think?
—I’m curious about _______, tell me more.
—I’m proud of you!
—I miss you.
—I am praying for you.
—I really admire _________ about you.
—I saw this _________ and it reminded me of you.
—Last time we talked you said ________, how’s that going?
—Thanks for being a special friend to me.
Affirmation: I listen.
Coaching question: What will help you think less about what people are thinking about you and more about expressing what you think about others?
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Success isn’t magic; it’s generally the product of picking a good system and following it until luck finds you. Scott Adams, author of How To Fail At Almost Everything and Still Win Big
Tis the season of resolutions and goal setting. I’m a Life Coach and I’m supposed to be all about goals, right? For 2019, I’m changing my tune and suggesting success (whether business or personal) is about systems, exercised with such consistency they turn into habits.
Want to lose weight? Rather than setting a weight loss goal, create a system of eating and exercise. “I will exercise thirty minutes, four days a week and lower my carb intake to two a day.” Want to attract more clients? “I will make three cold calls a day.” Want to have more peace in your life? “I will sit quietly ten minutes a day.” You get the picture. Wondering how systems are different from goals? They sound suspiciously similar. Goals can be attained, which is a good thing (I’m not suggesting you eliminate goals), but then what? We lose those ten pounds, goal accomplished, and we resume our old habits. Once a system becomes a habit, there is no end. The behavior continues, you stay healthy and successful and you get off the roller coaster of annual goal-setting/achievement/failure.
Affirmation: I create systems designed for success.
Coaching questions: What systems do you need to put in place? What’s standing in your way of doing this? How will your life be different if you create positive systems for success?