What Is the Experience of “Staying-Safe-At Home” Teaching You?

Language has created the word ‘loneliness’ to express the pain of being alone. And it has created the word ‘solitude’ to express the glory of being alone. Paul Tillich, philosopher and theologian

Writing in a CLOVID-19 Diary is helping me process my feelings as I record my stay-safe-at-home life experience for posterity. Growing up as an only child with one parent, I learned early how to be alone without being lonely. However, this time of isolation has challenged my coping skills. Honestly—I’m struggling with this new reality. 

In order to gain a more positive perspective, I recently listed what I’m learning. See if anything resonates with you then write your own list.

So far, I’m learning how to: 

* appreciate stillness more

* value my worth by who I am rather than by how much I do

* be more introspective than I’ve been in years

* be more patient

* lean on my faith as it relates to this new life

* appreciate my husband more

* soak in nature more than ever

* make-do with the ingredients I have in my pantry

* make-do with who I am without outside reinforcement or acknowledgement

* recognize, with greater clarity, the great racial, economic, and political divide

* have empathy for the tremendous physical, economic, and emotional suffering without being personally overwhelmed

Affirmation: I can do this.

Coaching questions: So far, what are your takeaways from your stay-at-home experience? How is this experience changing you? 

Stay safe!


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The Value of Time Spent Alone

You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with. Wayne W. Dyer

I don’t totally agree with Mr. Dyer’s quote. I think we all feel lonely from time to time no matter what our relationship is with ourselves. I used the quote because I think there is genuine value in time spent alone. Growing up as an only child with one parent meant I had plenty of alone-time. Throughout my life, I’ve welcomed time spent with just me. I like the quiet, the time for reflection, creativity, and acceptance. Alone-time helps me understand myself and others. I’m happy being in my own company.

Frequently when people are afraid of being alone they pursue relationships to escape themselves. When you’re comfortable in your own company, you can be with others without using them as a means of escape. Your relationships will be stronger when you learn how to enjoy your own company. 

Affirmation: I enjoy my own company. 

Coaching questions: How do you feel when you’re alone? If you’re answer is, “I hate being alone,” what steps will you take to learn how to enjoy your own company? 


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